Oh Augusto

       Today began beautifully with the word before anything else, which is always a great way of starting my day. 

Studied on Flesh of God leading to know more hunger and the Blood of god leading to know more thirst. Of course, he meant spiritually and not literally which actually scared off many followers of that time because they weren't down with cannibalism. haha

        There is an issue we all struggle with and that has the power to bring me down at times. It is the problem with honesty. Of course, WE ALL LIE! I am not saying I am clean of this at all because I tell lies often and am constantly asking for forgiveness from others but most importantly God. Thankfully he is way more understanding and has mercy on me in this sinful world.

        However, I am speaking with the problem of  COMMUNICATING EFFECTIVELY IN HONESTY. It seems like I am constantly having to beg or plead or COERCE people into just telling me the truth in situations that are really not THAT complicated.

      It's like the completely fictional example of  "if" I had two tickets to go to Hawaii and my friend who heard the news at the same time as me asked "Can I go with you?" I already establishing at the time of winning the tickets that I was taking someone else would have many ways of handling this situation. I could tell her "YEAH I'll THINK ABOUT IT." which is sort of rude and just unnecessary. If you must think about it you know maybe your answer is not yes? Or I could say "Well I only have 2 tickets and I'm not sure if susan wants to go too."   Which is to me just the same as saying RIDDLE ME THIS beforehand because nothing has actually been answered and now there is a 3rd party SUSAN associated with the question.

    

        Then there is the PREFERRED way to communicate and that is in TRUTH.  Because the truth is you want to go with SUSAN and you have two tickets and there is nothing wrong/rude/mean/unholy about telling your friend what is up and just keeping it real.  "Well I actually already planned to give my other ticket to Susan. I would really like you to come though! maybe you can get a cheap ticket as well online or something?"

    I mean it's not like you did not want to go ONLY with Susan and if you did you could simply tell your friend that "I'd really like to take my friend Susan and spend some time with her. I hope you can understand."

   I personally would respect both of these responses over sugar-coated and fluffy little answers that don't even answer the question of  CAN I GO? 

I just feel any strong friendship is based off of honest communication and at least if your honest and you lose a friend you can know that you were as real and authentic as possible in that relationship and you gave what you could.  Because often, we find ourselves stressed out because we've made so many commitments or we're in a situation where we don't know what to say because the TRUTH can be hurtful and it can be scary and disappointing and nobody wants to have to deliver the TRUTH to someone. We all want that fluffy, cotton-candy type of communication that sometimes we question but at least nothing upsetting was said :).

Just a rant for my August Sunday.

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